PARENTING and REPARENTING: How can we normalize struggle and create security around challenges? With Parent Coaches + Speakers Hannah Olavaria and Kelty Green of Upbringing

Aug 12, 2021

This week was really hard. 


I did a big, brave thing. (I bought a schoolbus to convert into a mini-home)

I made a big, hard mistake. (The schoolbus turned out to be a lemon and I lost $10,000)

And I learned some big, hard lessons. (Well, you’re just going to have to listen to the episode to hear about that!)


I am so grateful that I had this conversation with Hannah and Kelty of Upbringing a few weeks before I had my terrible, horrible, no good, very bad week. In this conversation, we talk about how the most important thing that you can do as a parent or caregiver is to regulate your own nervous system to model to little humans how to become friends with their own nervous systems. This is so important because when we grow up, we come up against big, brave things; big, hard mistakes; and big, important lessons and our nervous systems are the vehicle that we ride to help us through these inevitable moments in our lives. 


In this episode, we will learn about: 


  • Reclaiming the terms “spirited” and “sensitive” as reflections of our childrens’ nervous systems working and adapting perfectly to their environment
  • How to teach your child how to befriend their nervous system 
  • Parenting your child to focus on the Self rather than the opinions of the external world 
  • Why conflict feels unsafe for both parents and children and how we can normalize struggle and  create security around challenges

Listen to this episode if...

You are a parent to a spirited and sensitive child OR you have a sensitive and spirited Inner Child you are reparenting

Your Speakers:

Kat Lee  is an Intimacy + Relationship Coach, host of The Empowered Curiosity Podcast and Creator of The Heart Lab. She guides pattern-breakers to alchemize their emotions and embody their healing journey to cultivate intimacy as a spiritual practice. 


Hannah Olavaria and Kelty Green are twins, coaches + speakers at the parenting resource Upbringing. Certified in Simplicity Parenting, Positive Discipline + trained in Foundations of the respectful parenting approach, RIE, Hannah & Kelty empower parents to grow up alongside kids for sanity + social change, elevating their discipline practices one conversation at a time! Learn more about their courses, guides, coaching & Live Q&As at or on Instagram


Layton the Car Buyer (based in Vancouver,BC)  is the man who showed up with compassion on a day that I needed it. He buys all kinds of cars - everything from luxury to junkers like Oli and you can find him here.

Rob the Mechanic from  R & L Truck Repairs Ltd (Surrey, BC) was really knowledgeable and honest and gave me a no-bullshit assessment of Oli. He's old school and doesn't have a website but you can call him at (604) 582-0481

This podcast is made possible with sound production by Andre Lagace.
Original music by
Mayan Kites


I facilitate conversations through 1:1 coaching and various community offerings to guide curious humans to remember their True Self - who they are beyond the conditioning, the "shoulds", the trauma stories + the overriding of desires. If you need permission to step into the wholeness of your emotions and Being, let me show you that you’ve been the one holding the pen.

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