MINDFUL COMMUNICATION: Why it's so damn hard, how to stay anchored and how to repair ruptures with 5 Elements Acupuncturist Chris Miller

Sep 16, 2021

Communication is a learned behaviour. No one comes into this life with the pre-downloaded software of “Mindful Communication” already installed. Rather, we come into this life with needs and as children, we do our best to have those needs met. Often, those strategies need to be updated in adulthood. 


Entering into a triggering conversation and responding with consciousness and mindfulness when you are in an activated state is a skill. I personally learned these skill by being human, messing up a lot and seeing how much pain I could inflict with my words. Now, I teach humans how to have rooted rather than vortex conversations


My dear friend and repeat guest on The Empowered Curiosity Podcast, Chris Miller asked if he could interview me about communication. So in this episode, we turn the mic around and I sit in the guest seat and we talk about how to have difficult conversations. 


I share some of my most potent strategies about entering into difficult conversations, shifting a vortex conversation into a rooted one, and how to repair the relationship after the storm has passed. 


If you’d like to learn more about communication techniques, we spend an entire module of The Heart Lab developing your Communication Toolbox. Learn more about The Heart Lab here. 


In this episode you will learn:

  • Moving from fear into curiosity when it comes to difficult conversations 
  • Mapping the Body for signals of sympathetic activation 
  • The skill of asking for consent to have a difficult conversation 
  • Why mirroring and responsive listening are 2 “must-have” skills in communication 
  • The difference between creating and stealing space 
  • The anatomy of an apology 


Listen To This Podcast If:

You’d like to learn how to enter into challenging conversations from a rooted space

Your Speakers:

Kat Lee  is an Intimacy + Relationship Coach, host of The Empowered Curiosity Podcast and Creator of The Heart Lab. She guides pattern-breakers to alchemize their emotions and embody their healing journey to cultivate intimacy as a spiritual practice. 


Chris Miller is the owner of Portland Wellness Collective and Miller Acupuncture. He is a highly regarded practitioner, teacher, speaker and mentor with over 15 years experience in acupuncture and Chinese Medicine. His own experience with a serious illness compelled Chris to seek a holistic, integrated treatment plan, which he successfully found in acupuncture and Chinese Medicine.



This podcast is made possible with sound production by Andre Lagace.
Original music by
Mayan Kites



I facilitate conversations through 1:1 coaching and various community offerings to guide curious humans to remember their True Self - who they are beyond the conditioning, the "shoulds", the trauma stories + the overriding of desires. If you need permission to step into the wholeness of your emotions and Being, let me show you that you’ve been the one holding the pen.

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